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My family spent last week pulling a trailer to various places between Mesa, Arizona and Salt Lake City, Utah for spring break.  Oh, I could write volumes on the shenanigans we experienced, but for the sake of this post, I’ll try to keep it to one point.

We had just spent an entire day trying to get from Mesa, AZ to Goblin Valley, Utah, not really comprehending how unrealistic such a jaunt in one day really was.  After missing our turnoff in Flagstaff (add 3 hours to the trip because of the unscheduled stop at the meteor crater on the way to Albuquerque), our hope was to reach Goblin Valley, Utah before the RV park closed at 10 pm.

On the map, there’s a nice little road from Mexican Hat, straight up to Hanksville, which is only a little ways away from Goblin Valley.  By the time we reached Mexican Hat, it was clearly impossible to hope for a 10 pm arrival; we’d be lucky to get there before midnight.  I just prayed that the gate would remain open for us by some fluke, so we pressed on.  We had already paid for the first night, and I wanted to benefit from it.

(Do all you CAN do, and expect things to work out for your in the end, right?)

When we reached the turnoff outside of Mexican Hat, there was a large, obnoxious sign that said we’d be stupid to drive that road with an RV.  It was small with switchbacks and although I was anxious to get to Hanksville, we decided it would be smartest to go an extra 40 miles out of our way through Bluff and Blanding instead.

By 1:00 in the morning, we finally rolled into Hanksville, exhausted and grateful that we were there in one piece.  It had been a lonely, dark, unpredictable and nerve-wracking road with our long and heavy trailer.

We slept at a gas station in Hanksville, and in the morning, headed down highway 24 towards Goblin Valley.  Happy to be close to our destination and well rested, we excitedly told the kids we were almost there. (To this point, the destination was still a secret.)

About 20 miles out of town, my son saw something sparkly spread across the hills on our left.  I looked, and was amazed at its beauty – it looked like it was covered in hundreds of yards of gold.  I knew it couldn’t possibly be, so I just assumed it had to be pyrite (fools gold).

Unexpectedly, the glitter ended with the next hill.  “Shoot!” We thought, “we should have stopped to see what it was and take some home with us!”  But our trailer was too large, and we were too long to turn around on the narrow 2-lane road, so we just pressed on.

Around the next corner, my husband Trevan thought he saw some on the right side of the road and quickly pulled off to take the opportunity.  But it only took a moment to realize that the solid-looking shoulder was deep and soft from rain the day before.  He gunned it to get back on the road, but it was too late.  We were stuck.  Stuck on a road that sees a traveler only once in a very long while.

Long story short, a group of college kids eventually saw us, turned around, and stopped to help in vain (to my oldest son’s amusement, one happened to be from the same high school as he attends now, 550 miles away).  Then a man in a truck stopped, and went into town to get a chain.

With everyone pushing, and the man with the truck pulling, we finally pulled out.  My husband ran ahead to thank the man in the truck, who asked us where we were going.  He responded, “Goblin Valley!”  To which the man replied, “You’re going in the wrong direction!  You need to take the 24 East, not West.”

Amazing. We were already 30 miles off course and would not have known it for a very long time had we not gotten stuck in the mud.

The college students asked, “Why did you pull off the road?”

We chuckled, “Because we saw something sparkly.”

They laughed at us, hard.

You know, sometimes life is like this.  You’re traveling along in the wrong direction and don’t even know it.  So God allows you to be enticed by a dream that gets your attention – maybe it’s financial freedom, maybe it’s a nice house or a car.  So you divert your attention toward the goal and somewhere along the way, you end up getting stuck.

In an effort to get unstuck, you reach out for help, and ultimately learn something that puts you on course toward your ultimate goal, after having been off course without even knowing it.

People looking for more money or a better lifestyle often end up discovering the principles of prosperity and laws of success which apply to all areas of their life, all because they got stuck financially and searched for a way out.

The good news is, being stuck is one of the best things that can happen to you, because it often stops you from continuing in the wrong direction, and opens up an opportunity for you to not only get unstuck, but to get back on course when you didn’t even know you were going the wrong way in the first place.

I’m convinced that’s what the “glitter” of life is really for.  “Materialism” – being too consumed with material things – isn’t all bad, because it gets your attention, and if your heart is in the right place, it can lead you to answers you don’t even know you need.

For more help on getting unstuck, prospering your family, and turning your life around, visit http://www.prosperyourfamily.com.

Are you a Mom who helps with the family finances? Do you feel guilty for not being 100% attentive to your children?

That’s how I felt for many, many years.

What I didn’t realize, was that I was doing damage in a way I had never considered, simply by the way I thought about my situation.

All the time that I felt frustrated and angry about having to work, I wanted my children to grow up believing that our situation was NOT the standard.  I wanted them to believe that mothers should be 100% attentive to their children.  I wanted them to grow up expecting things to be more “ideal” in their future families.

I’d say things like, “I’m so sorry I have to work so much!  I really should be spending time with you, and I promise, we’re doing all we can to fix the problem!”

Or, “I wish I didn’t have to work!  I hate the way things are, but we’ve just got to keep hoping that things will get better.  We have to be patient; can you hang on just a little longer until things can be better?  I really believe this won’t last forever…”

My intentions were good, but what I was really communicating was doing more damage than I realized.

1) I was teaching my kids that my husband and I were doing something wrong, when in reality, we were doing precisely what was necessary.

2) I was teaching my kids that it was acceptable to complain about doing what was necessary. I realized my error when I noticed them complaining about their necessary work, and expecting things to be easier for them, too. For example, they complained about having to walk to school because I was too busy to drive them a measly 1/2 mile in beautiful Arizona weather.  They complained about having to cook, clean and do dishes because I was too busy to do my “regular motherly duties”.

3) It became easy for my kids to conclude that Mom and Dad just don’t keep their promises when the need for me to work stretched from months into years.  I believe our children had a harder time believing the things we said because of it.

4) The “guilty Mom” syndrome caused me to overcompensate in other areas. If they begged for more privileges (even privileges that contradicted family policy or went against plain good sense), I was more likely to give in, just because I felt guilty about working too much. (My friend Matt Reichmann who works for LAPD and sees plenty of domestic dysfunction says there’s nothing more dangerous than a guilty parent.)

One of the best shifts I’ve ever made in my life was the day I decided to stop apologizing for working.

Yes, I still thought it would have been more ideal for our family if I had been able to give more time to my children, but under the circumstances, the next best thing I could do for them was to change the way I felt about it:

I decided to accept my situation and make the most of it.  Instead of saying, “I’m so sorry for working so much; I wish I didn’t have to…”  I started saying things like, “Hey, this is what needs to be done, and you know, it feels really good to work!” Or, “Hey, let’s both get some work done, and at 4:30, let’s go to the park!  What would YOU like to accomplish?”

The energy in our home shifted in an incredible way.  We also decided to make our children more involved in our work, and help them see the impact that it had in the lives of others.

We showed them how doing their chores and helping the family run more smoothly (picking up the slack where Mom couldn’t do it all), was actually helping people all over the world have better lives.  We helped them see the bigger picture, and they started doing family chores more cheerfully.  They even started doing what needed to be done without being asked.

My children are incredibly independent.  They became that way because they had to be.  But I have no regrets – they are learning how to work, and how to feel good about a job well done.

This family is certainly not perfect, and my kids still complain just like anyone else’s kids, but every one of my children has had at least one wonderful moment when they made that shift, and expressed great satisfaction from being independently productive.  It only takes a few of those successes for a child to have a memorable comparison between how they feel when they’re cheerfully productive and how they feel when they are not.

I’d say it’s the law of Polarity in action: what I thought was so horrible (me working) has turned into a tremendous blessing in our family – but only because I first decided to stop apologizing.

No matter what your work is, it’s helping someone.  Talk to your children about what you do, and the difference it makes in the lives of others.  Teach them by your example to learn how to enjoy being productive.  This is one of the greatest gifts you can give them before they leave the home: a love of work, and an acceptance of what “is”.

(Accepting what “is”, is the first step toward major transformation.  Test it!)

Do you see how children learn from our examples, whether we work or we don’t?  Teach them to find joy in making a contribution when necessary.  Teach them by your example to accept the things they cannot change, and find happiness, no matter what.

If you don’t have to work, I hope you’ll still find work to do – a hobby, a project, community service, whatever – so that your children can learn these lessons.  It’s worth it!

See, no matter how well you parent them, they will face challenges in their adult life.  How well they turn out will have less to do with whether you worked or you didn’t, but more with how they saw you to respond to your challenges.

For more on this topic, read Portal to Genius.

We recently noticed a post in the forums from one of our FTMF participants worth mentioning, because it’s a great example of the Law of Polarity in action.   She writes:

My husband overlooked a tax [that was] supposed to be paid for [on] an income of about 20K. Having learned the law of polarity, I thought there must be something good in this. Indeed, it turned out to be a blessing in disguise even if we had to hire an accountant to sort it out and pay him about 1K. Instead of having to pay for probably between 5K-7K in taxes, the taxman gave us back about 10K. It’s amazing how things have worked out! Now, each time something so bad happens, I always expect a great blessing.

My husband noticed her story and here was his response:

Thank you for the great example of the law of polarity in action. As you know, “To think truth in spite of appearances” is the hardest work in the world. You did exactly that, when you refused to believe that the circumstance was ‘bad’.

To everyone else: From the stickman, remember that this was just data coming in- not good or bad until Cessy assigned meaning to it. She rejected thoughts of lack, loss, and negativity, and chose to assign good meaning to this apparently negative data. I would venture to suppose that she didn’t apply any feelings of anxiety over the situation, but instead, got excited about the good that was invariably on its way – not in spite of, but because of her chosen reaction.

Good work!

Join us in the forums to share your story, and to read many, many others!  Be inspired and encouraged on this journey – meet thousands of others in our community who all want to learn to live by the principles and enjoy the abundant life that it promises!

I’ve had a few challenges this week… character building experiences… and there is one phrase that, for a couple days, kept coming to mind at least once an hour. A good friend and mentor of mine named Ken Pierce gave me this advice many years ago. At times when I have been in a slump, discouraged by a perceived lack of progress, or when my objectives keep meeting with obstacles, the words “never say whoa in a mudhole” continue to return to my mind.

What does it mean? Well, if I am in a horse-drawn wagon and have to go through a mud hole, I’d be a fool to stop and wallow in it. The longer I stop, the deeper I could sink, and the harder it would be to get out of it.

Ken taught me that when you’re in a mud hole, you’ve got to accelerate instead! Get through it! Remember why you set out on the journey in the first place, and drive on, with more energy than ever!

Sometimes the mudhole is in reality a terror barrier. If you’ve got a dream for prosperity that you’ve been running toward, and suddenly everything appears to be falling apart, that’s when you have to spend more time picturing the results you want and less time emotionalizing over appearances.

Maybe you’ve heard it this way: “Fear knocked on the door, Faith answered… and no one was there.” Most of the time, the thing you fear is nothing more than an illusion in your own mind… it is imagining worst case scenarios that haven’t even happened yet, nor may they ever. It’s using the law of attraction against yourself.

Difficult things will happen to us on our life’s journey, that’s part of the experience. But we can choose to deal with them if and when they happen, rather than expending energy worrying about things that may never manifest. Why would we want to suffer through it more than once? Besides, as James Ray says, “You can’t worry enough about a problem to fix it.”

By the Law of Polarity you can be sure that when things look their worst, there is, in reality, the potential for an equal and opposite “good” to come out of it. For help with this principle, and to also discover what’s really going on around you when you switch your mindset, visit ProsperYourFamily.com

When you begin to study the principles of prosperity and the laws of success, it’s natural to conclude that you have to think optimistically at all times in order for the law of perpetual transmutation to bring you the resources you need to accomplish the goal.

But constant optimism isn’t necessary – it actually isn’t really even possible.  Without an emotional dip now and then, you’d never know a good day when you had one.

Even tough times contain benefits.  Families across the world are scaling back on unnecessary purchases and focusing on things that matter most like:

Family, faith, hope…

And if the economy has necessitated this change, then even a bad economy is something to be grateful for.

The world is full of illusions.  Many people are being tested right now to see if they will seek and cling to truth (there is abundance) and make choices that lead them to greater personal freedom, or whether they will let the ‘evidence’ of disaster overwhelm them and lead them to discouragement, and ultimately an even tighter feeling of bondage.

So, with that in mind, how goes YOUR battle?

Everyone goes through periods of discouragement, or there could be no real victory.

Everyone. Even people you look up to.

Even people who are doing well right now.

Discouragement is simply a natural part of the package called LIFE.

But what separates those who conquer the battle from those who are crushed under the weight of it, is just one thing.

The only thing that separates the victor from the vanquished is his or her thoughts in the heat of the battle.

It’s easy to think optimistically when things are going well.

It’s when things are TOUGH beyond belief that the real winners emerge. How do they do it? What do they know that perhaps you don’t know?

Keep reading…

The hardest part is thinking optimistically when things are NOT going well. A person might try, but if there isn’t enough knowledge and understanding to support that optimism, the optimism is fake at best, and can even become destructive at worst.

Don’t let your optimism destroy you.

You can’t just hope and pray that everything will work out. You can’t just affirm it superficially. You need to have the knowledge that gives you REASON to know that everything is going to turn out okay for you. There is a way to know for sure, and it isn’t just from making a decision that you’ll make it so.

The good news is that in hard times like these, for some, the greatest personal victories of all time will be won. No victory will ever be so great as the ones that come out of the most disastrous of conditions. So if you have it REALLY bad right now, you are among the most fortunate – IF – you make your daily decisions based on the knowledge I have to share with you.

If you’re ready to get on top of those bills and begin living the life you and your family were meant to live, order the FTMF program. I’ve got something special I am going to throw in, so keep reading…

“I can’t even describe what an amazing miracle this course has been in my life. Everything has changed and I am a completely different person from when I started this journey in January. I went from a happy, but blah, letting-life-take-me-where-it-will-and-be-happy-with-it person, to a vigorous and excited, let-me-partner-with-God-in-creating-miracles person. My husband is overwhelmingly excited to see this change in me and seriously awesome things are happening. I never would have imagined 8 months ago when I was sitting in my dingy apartment that I would be in a house on an amazing adventure with so many exciting dreams and achievable goals! TAKE THIS COURSE, it will change your life. I tell everyone that I can about it. Thank you Leslie and Trevan!” Katiev16

There is no greater gift you can give your family than the gift of HOPE. It begins with you.

You’ve got to take the lead on this and learn to live according to the principles so you can show your family how.

You might be the only person you know who is interested in this information. Don’t wait for anyone else to make the decision for you – you may be your family’s only hope.

There’s a reason why YOU are the one who has been drawn to this material – the one who bothered reading this message – and it could be because your nature is the most inclined to naturally influencing those around you for good by your example. Let them see how it changes your life.

You don’t even have to say a word – they’ll see it, they’ll sense it, and they’ll naturally become curious and hungry to discover your new found wisdom and knack for profiting from your setbacks.

What is the FTMF program?

The Family Time & Money Freedom (FTMF) program is a 12-week course that walks you step-by-step through two very important phases. In the first phase, I help you experience documentable success with an inconsequential goal – something that creates no inner conflict with old paradigms. This phase gives you the confidence to set a second goal – a bigger one – the kind that right now might blow your mind. Then during phase 2, I help you choose that bigger goal and then systematically help you achieve it.

Together, we build the neuro-pathways you need to have confidence and a pattern for accomplishing every goal you set for the rest of your life. This is why so many of our students get the FTMF program and go through it more than once, because after achieving their first big goal, they’re excited to see it work again for an even bigger goal.

The process doesn’t change – you simply use it time and again for increasingly difficult objectives. You’ll be a different person the next time through, and have a completely different experience with it. You’ll notice ideas and concepts in the material that you didn’t notice the first time through, because frankly, you weren’t ready for it.

This is how it is with everyone. We all notice and absorb the principles we’re ready to learn, only when we’re ready to learn them.

(Thank heavens for that, because if it all was understandable the first time around, you’d be overwhelmed. Your mind would shut down because physically you could not handle it all in one flood of enlightenment. Do you know what I mean? Have you ever been so enlightened that you get physically drained and need to sleep?)

Anyway, think about giving your family the gift of HOPE right now. I don’t mean: buy THEM the FTMF program, although I wouldn’t discourage that; but if YOU are the one who is hungry for the information, buy it for YOU, and SHOW them your transformation.

Inspire them by your example.

Hope is contagious, and as your hope grows, theirs will, too.

Order this week and you’ll get one free membership in the School of Life Mastery for one year ($359 value) at no additional charge.

Remember, you’ll have the online version available to you immediately – so you can get started even before your box arrives in the mail.

When money is tight, you can either stretch it as far as it will go and hope it doesn’t run out, or you can invest it in learning how to multiply the little resources you may have left.

Have faith in yourself. You have everything you need to win this battle.

When you can’t rely on anything or anyone else to give you what you need, rely on PRINCIPLES. You’ll feel a greater sense of peace immediately as you immerse yourself in understanding what they are and how they really work.

When you live according to the laws, you naturally enjoy greater confidence and clearer guidance on what your next step needs to be. Peace of mind is within your reach.

Let me help you find it.

All the best,

Leslie Householder

Do you ever feel like you could be the poster child for Murphy’s Law?  Have you ever wondered if the struggle you face is evidence that you’re doing the wrong thing?  Before you draw that conclusion, read this:

I recently had a conversation with one of our Family Time & Money Freedom (FTMF) participants and I thought I’d let you in on it…

Hi Leslie,

…I am just really bummed out right now. I am currently attending a University course to get my psychology degree. I am taking a philosophy class which I thought I would love, but it turns out the instructor is very picky so I am not enjoying or doing well in this class.

I read once that if something is a struggle, then it is not the right thing to be doing. If I am meant to be doing something, then it should be inspired and easy flowing.

I want to be a life coach and thought that with a degree in pyschology, it might make things better.

I am worried too because I am getting financial aid and if I fail this class I may have to end up paying for the class or pay loans back or something which will put me further in the hole. I am just sitting here wondering what I am doing and really very upset. I didn’t know who to turn to or even what to do right now, So I guess I just needed to vent. I am scared, lets just say that. I am at work right now, if I wasn’t I would be crying.

Here’s how I replied:

First of all, take a deep, deep breath.

Second of all, let me add my perspective on the comment, “if something is a struggle, then it is not the right thing to be doing.” I think there is some truth to that, but it’s been twisted.

I gave birth to a few kids, and every one of those labors was a TREMENDOUS struggle.  That doesn’t mean in the least that it wasn’t the right thing to do.  The truth is that ANYthing worth having is worth struggling for.  The key is to keep your “WHY” vivid and alive.  When you lose sight of why you’re putting yourself through something tough, then the pain is only magnified.  When you remember the people whose lives you’ll change forever, the passion and the dream of that expectation is anesthesia that dulls the pain.

I can’t tell you how many times my husband and I thought, “We can do anything, as long as it gets us closer to our goal, and as long as we know it’s temporary.”  We always said that about the un-fun things we had to do along the way.

Furthermore, if you give up now just because it isn’t fun anymore, then how will you ever be qualified to coach someone else through their struggles?

If I were you, I’d do what I could to remember the law of Polarity and the law of Rhythm, especially now.  As horrible as this is, is how wonderful the reward will be on the other side.  If it’s only a little bit bad, then the reward will only be a little bit good.  If things are bad today, you can expect an upturn in your mood soon enough.  Look forward to it, expect it.  Be grateful for the pain today, because it is only through that pain that there could possibly be meaning in the victory.

As for the “flow” concept, yes, things can go smoothly and you can have that peace of mind being in the flow.  But it is an internal thing.  Life will always deliver challenges.  ALWAYS.  Life mastery means finding peace of mind and assurance that everything is going to be okay no matter what.  When you live in that kind of a state of being, then the resources you need begin to flow your way more naturally.  But remember, you’ve got to achieve that mindset before it flows, and that mindset can only be achieved in the middle of hardship.  (Anyone can find peace of mind when life is going smoothly; the best rewards come from finding it when life is NOT going smoothly.  That’s what separates the winners from the crowd.)

So, in reality, your hardship right now is a tremendous gift to you – you’re being given the opportunity to prove your mental toughness and demonstrate right thinking in spite of it.  Pass the test and you leap to a new level of life success.  Without the hardship, you would have no opportunity to prove yourself, and no corresponding reward would be waiting.

Anyway, I know this probably isn’t what you wanted to hear, but I hope you find it helpful.

Hang in there – a better day is coming if you respond to this the right way.  Think, how would a champion handle this?  How would a highly successful success coach handle this?  You’ve got it inside of you to conquer this – be kind to yourself.  Do your best and let God handle the rest.  Whatever the outcome is, chalk it up to your experience that adds to the value you’ll have to offer your future clients.

Warmest regards,

Leslie

This young woman quickly replied:

Thank you so so much Leslie! It means so much to me that you took time out to write me back! I love every bit of your reply. It all makes perfect sense! Again thank you so much! Just what I needed.

Now, what about you?  I’d like to help you get through those ’stuck places’.

How? Join me in the FTMF program – if you get involved before our current manuals run out, your version will automatically include my personal assistance on your goal at the midterm ($199 value).

(Future editions of the manual will be modified to exclude that bonus service; I’m getting spread a little too thin to keep it in there!)

Procrastination is your biggest enemy – if you know you need to do this, do it now.  Your transformation awaits you!

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Last week I had a horrible, edgy day. I was angry at everyone, and everything around me. Even the things that weren’t all that bad started looking intolerable.

I didn’t even know what originally set me off, but I was clearly out of control.

And the final straw: doggie poop in the back yard.

That was it. We had already had a pow wow with our children the month before, and the deal was agreed – that they needed to pitch in on his poop and start caring for him better without being reminded, or we’d need to find him a better home.

With seven children between the ages of 3 and 17, surely there would be someone who cared enough about keeping our beloved basset hound to show that kind of initiative.

Well, it had been about four weeks, and only ONCE had one of the children cleaned up his poop without being asked.

He was already in one classified ad, and we had received two calls up to that point, but we also had a list of what the perfect home for him would be like, and we weren’t going to give him up unless we found someone whose home matched that list.

But on this day, I had become overly upset about the poop and determined to place an ad in another paper to speed up the process.

My 14 year-old son saw me typing furiously on the computer and wondered, “What are you doing?”

“Placing another ad for Charlie.”

“What?!” He was devastated. He couldn’t believe I was actually going to go through with it, and was surprised to find out that this wasn’t the first ad I had placed.

Finding no sympathy in me, he stormed out of the house to cool off. After he left, I felt horrible. I wanted to beat myself up for being such a mean mother, and wondered why I had failed so miserably at being the kind of person I prefer to be.

It wasn’t until several days later that I found out why it turned out okay that I had experienced such a ‘bad’ day. I learned that God can use us, even when we’re being pathetic, to accomplish his purposes:

On that same day, my ten year old was across the neighborhood coming home from the park on his bike. His pant leg got caught in the chain on a street that we rarely ever traverse. He was stuck, and alone, and didn’t have the strength nor could he get the right angle to pull it out.

Until my 14 year-old wandered into that remote area of our neighborhood, just trying to get away from a witchy mother. He very rarely has had a reason to go on that street, and on that day, he thought he was on his way to nowhere.

But no, he was on his way to his brother and didn’t even realize it.

I don’t think God purposely tries to tick me off so that this kind of rescue can take place… but he knows me and my weaknesses. He lets me have them so that I’ll stay humble, and learn to rely on him more completely… and as a side benefit, he uses my weaknesses to accomplish good things.

I guess it just makes me feel like everything is going to turn out okay if I just keep trying to do my best, and forgive myself on days when I’m at my worst.

All is not lost in those days when we fail, in fact, I’ll bet that more good comes out of those days than we’ll ever know.

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Last week my eleven year-old daughter came home from orchestra practice simply devastated. She had been the first to arrive, and as the others filed in, nobody chose to sit by her. She sat at the edge of the room, the only student with an empty chair at her side.

She felt rejected and alone.

So today, as I dropped her off, I encouraged her to hold back and let some of the others sit down first, and then make her choice to sit by someone she’d like to get to know better. “Find someone who might be having a bad day, and BE the one to make a friend.”

I encouraged her to have a prayer in her heart, picturing herself with an abundance of friends, and reminded her that choosing to be positive and confident would help others want to be around her.

So she pulled herself together with an intention that things would be different this time. She agreed to pray in her heart and try to think more positively.

But what happened next surprised us both…

When I picked her up from school, she was excited to report that she ended up right between two girls that she was excited to get to know better.

How did it happen? Not the way we thought it would.

Contrary to my advice, she still showed up earlier than most; and out of habit decided to sit in her regular chair on the edge of the room. As a few of the other students filed in, the pattern threatened to repeat itself.

However, just then, she noticed a scary spider on her music stand. Creeped out, she took her folder and tried to push it off.

Instead of successfully getting it out of her space, it fell onto her leg. She jumped up and shook her pants and wasn’t sure where it ended up. Assuming it was still at her chair, she decided that it would be better to move.

It took her out of her comfort zone and into another chair. One of the girls she’d like to know better came in and sat right next to her. Before long, a second girl took the empty chair at her other side.

Admittedly she said she thought the answer to her prayer would show up in the form of an idea, or an added measure of courage to do or say something uncomfortable.

But no, it showed up as a spider.

This micro-experience captures the essence of how God so often deals with us. When we ask for things to be better, he doesn’t just make things better. He creates conditions in our life that make us get out of our comfort zone and put us somewhere else – somewhere, where the blessing we’re asking for can finally be delivered.

Sometimes we get moved out of our comfort zone and still fail to receive the blessing. This can happen when our thoughts are not inclined to look for the hidden benefit in our adversity.

It would be like my daughter getting out of her regular chair and into another, and being so upset by it that she doesn’t even notice the potential friendships on either side of her. By her response to the hardship, she could have completely denied herself of the blessing that the change contained.

In that case, the girls that flanked her could have picked up on the downer-energy and might have been inclined to just ignore her.

I’m grateful that she was thoughtful enough to give credit to God for sending a spider, because it prepared the way for her to receive the very thing she was hoping for all along.

Now my dear reader… What’s your spider? What ugly thing has showed up in your life that’s opposite to what you’ve been praying for? It’s there for a reason.

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Of all the principles of prosperity I teach, do you remember the Law of Polarity from “Hidden Treasures: Heaven’s Astonishing Help with Your Money Matters“?

When you are striving to accomplish something significant, and obstacles get in your way, don’t forget that the bigger the challenge, the better the reward can be on the other side of it.

Imagine my frustration when, as I tried to get Jackrabbit Factor published in 2005, I received letter after letter from publishers who weren’t interested. But there is one letter in particular that stood out from the rest, and which actually put me on a different path altogether for which, in hindsight, I am extremely grateful.

It has become “my favorite rejection” of all time.

Once in a while I’ll share the letter with an audience in a seminar, and for those who have read “The Jackrabbit Factor” it triggers an eruption of laughter. (For those who haven’t, there’s usually just a grin, as they wonder about what’s so funny…)

Had I not received that particular rejection letter, and continued on the same path in search of a publisher, the book would have taken much longer to hit the market. For some of you, it might be interesting to take a moment and think of how your life would have been different for you, had that been the case.

So, take a fresh look at your obstacles right now. By law, there is contained within them the potential for something phenomenal. What could it be?

Start looking for the upside of your challenges, and be grateful. It will put you in the right state of being to attract some incredible blessings. Continue to focus on the inconvenience of your obstacle, and you may miss the blessing altogether.

With all due respect for the publisher who rejected me, (for I hold no malice, only gratitude for the opportunity to try), I thought it might be inspirational to share the letter with you.

Why? To snub the publisher? No, and I hope none of my readers take it that way. It is to simply offer an alternative, positive perspective on rejections that you may face on the way to achieving your goals.

View my favorite rejection letter HERE.

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